From Generation to Generation
You may recall in my last blog about the U.S.
celebration of freedom, that I mentioned that it is up to each generation to do
the things necessary to protect and preserve freedom for the next.
I was visiting with a friend after that and
we were discussing the churches, children and grandchildren. She mentioned a person she knows who was very
involved with her church who had a good sized family, and yet among her
children and grandchildren, a very small percentage of those offspring are
involved with church. I know a number of
families in which this same scenario plays out, and other families in which the children
follow faithfully in their parents’ faith.
Coming on the heels of my Independence Day blog, it made me think that
as important as it is for each American generation to protect our liberty to
pass on to the next, it is even more important that we pass the faith on to our
children and grandchildren.
Perhaps that describes your life. As I look through the scriptures, I find many
individuals whose children served God and followed in their parents’
footsteps. Abraham is a great example of
this…Isaac, Jacob-Israel, Joseph..the line is impressive. But then one of the most celebrated figures
in scripture, King David, had children whose lives were far from
exemplary. Later, King Hezekiah was a
man whose relationship with God was pretty special, but his son, King Manasseh,
was one of the most godless kings Judah or Israel ever had, (though he did
repent later on). I know that there are
those who try to offer assurance that the children of believers will be people
of faith if we are appropriate parents and believe, but the pattern of
scripture is that though godly parents have a godly influence, providing an
opportunity for their children to embrace the faith for themselves, children
and grandchildren do not always follow in their parents’ faith. Sometimes our influence may be more effective
with people outside our family than with those in our family, much as we might
prefer it not to be that way. If it is,
then we can pray and trust that God will have other individuals whose influence
can impact those in our family who we seem unable to reach, because prayers
accomplish so much more than we can accomplish ourselves.
It is absolutely critical that we take the preservation of our faith seriously. God expects it of us, and the eternal destiny of millions depends on it.
I have heard it said that the church is always only
one generation away from extinction.
(Tried to find who first said it, but wasn't able to locate it…if you
know, let me know, I’d wouldn't mind having the name.)
A friend of mine discusses the decline in so
many American churches, and how so many have lost the younger families. She likes to inquire her faithful church friends who are of the baby boomer and older
generations whether they have children and grandchildren who aren't involved
with church. She then asks whether they wish those same children were involved in the church and what they would be willing to
do to get them involved. Her final question is then: “Would you be willing to give up your kind of music if that would help them
want to be involved?”
While people will
often say they would do whatever it takes, all too often we place limits on
what we actually are willing to do, and as a result, those younger families get
involved in other things more conducive to their experiences of life.
In divorce, there is often a faith crisis for the
children in the families, especially if one parent holds strong to their faith
while the other is irreligious or openly scoffing. But even if both are believers, the children
can question what difference it makes to believe, if it doesn't protect one
from divorce, because they don’t always see the whole picture. Sometimes they can lose faith because they
pray for their parents’ marriage, or that mommy and daddy will get back
together again, but when they don’t, they can believe that God must not be
real. The hurts in the lives of children
can drive them to God, or drive them away.
As divorced parents, we must do our best to be seeking Christ and being
obedient to his will so that our children will see a genuine example of
faith. That seeking may lead us to
reconciliation with our ex, it may lead us to remain single, it may lead us to
build a godly home with our second spouse, but wherever it leads, it is our
duty to do our best to maintain a quality witness for the sake of our children
and grandchildren. And it is our duty to
be praying for those children, whether it appears that they are listening to
God or not. Manasseh was clearly doing
wicked deeds despite his father Hezekiah’s example, but he later repented…God
got through to him later in his life, at least somewhat. As my wife wisely says in these kinds of
discussions, “You don’t know what God is doing in their lives.” And we don’t.
So let me sum up a few thoughts on this whole
discussion. First, seek to be a
genuinely godly influence in the lives of your children. If you children follow in your footsteps,
rejoice and continue to pray for them.
But if they do not, realize that even if your marriage had stayed intact it does not guarantee your influence of faith would have been different. And so we pray for our children and do our best to
continue to hold true to God. But always
keeping in mind that it is up to you and me, we who live in THIS moment in
history, to do our best to make sure that the message of Jesus has opportunity
to spread beyond this time and into the future for those generations yet to
come.
TL:dr It is
critical for each generation to carry to light of Christ effectively for
following generations to see.
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