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Ten Tips to Help a Divorced Friend on Her First Divorced Mother’s Day
1)
Don’t be surprised if you don’t see her in
church……it is hard enough without seeing lots of couples and hearing more
stories than you want to hear.
2)
Odds are she will have her kids with her, but
may not have the funds to go out to dinner…if you have funds, how about sending
her a restaurant gift card?
3)
If her kids are young, somebody may need to do
for them what dad used to, helping them shop or making a project for mom. You could be that somebody (although, there
are some of us dads who still make sure the kids have funds for Mother’s Day
for our ex….so don’t assume.)
4)
If you have a close friendship, you may want
to find a way to offer a bit of the pampering she may have experienced (or should have) on past Mother’s Days: hire a teenager to clean house for her, send
a gift certificate for a massage, that kind of thing.
5)
Give her a call, later in the day, and make
sure the listening end of your phone is working well. It very likely will be a difficult and
emotional day….she may need a shoulder to cry on or a person with whom she can
vent.
6)
I wonder if she will get any Mother’s Day
cards? You could make sure there is at
least one.
7)
IF SHE DOESN'T HAVE CHILDREN---don’t assume it
is a no big deal day….remember, she didn't just lose her husband, she lost a
potential family.
8)
Maybe she’d like to spend the day with HER
mother, and doesn't have the resources to get there…you might be able to help
out.
9)
The most significant help you give may not be on Mother’s Day. It may be over lunch the day after when you
ask how things went. It just helps to
know somebody cares, or even that somebody is aware that it might have been a
difficult day
.
10) Don’t underestimate the power and meaning of
prayer. Pray for her on Mother’s Day,
and let her know she is in your prayers.
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