Wednesday, October 24, 2012
A tragic loss in Wisconsin
Tragedy in Wisconsin
So, like me, have you been hearing the news about all the shootings around the country of late? I heard a report that indicated the person accused of the shooting in the
area was the estranged husband of one of the victims, and that his wife (or
ex-wife) was killed in the shooting. I
have heard of this kind of thing far too many times, haven’t you? A divorce, battles over custody, and
estranged husband (usually) vents his anger and frustration with a gun or other
weapon, killing his ex and sometimes the children, too, before taking his own
life. People shake their heads in
disbelief, wondering how anybody could DO something like that. Milwaukee
Although, I suspect there are a great many of us individuals who have gone through the process of divorce, and we have an idea how it could happen. Not that we all were tempted to do something that awful, but we certainly understand how tempers can flare and how intense and confused the emotions can get during a divorce. The hurt, rejection, frustration with and ex or with the court…...it can simply become overwhelming.
So we need to pray for the families of the victims in these shootings. But we need to do more than that. We need to be sensitive to individuals experiencing divorce, and try to help encourage them through their emotional upheaval in healthy ways (which, by the way, is central to the purpose of my book). All too often, people are left to sort out their struggle by themselves, without the listening ear of friends or the guidance of wise counsel. And the intensity of the hurt, isolation and betrayal simply overwhelms them until they can’t handle it any more. Oh, it doesn't always play out in destructive behaviors with guns. Sometimes it manifests itself in drunkenness, or through illicit relationships, or other apparently “crazy” behavior. I believe it is important for people like you and I, people who have some idea of how difficult it can be, to be the kind of people that folks struggling with divorce can turn to in their times of hurt and loneliness. I hope that my little book helps prevent tragedies like those we hear about in the news. And maybe your involvement may do the same with somebody you know and care about.