Thursday, July 26, 2012
Somebody wishes they had this……..
Well, been visiting with a few friends and acquaintances the last couple of days. Received some comments regarding the way that the blog is being shared and as they surprised me I thought I would share them.
I received a comment from a friend that told me of a relative who is reading my blogs and about the book and, apparently is passing the info along to friends they know who are struggling. That relative had been divorced years ago, and had commented that he/she wished something like this had been available during his/her divorce. Which is EXACTLY why I have been writing what I have…..especially the book. Several divorced folks lately have indicated their agreement with me that there is such a dearth of material like this available to help Christian folks through times of divorce. Hopefully, my musings can help fill that gap for those folks somewhat. Believe me, when you are experiencing the tumult of divorce, you are desperately hungry for something like this to help you through it.
Another friend who has pretty much read the whole book while dealing with his divorce made what I thought was a good observation. He said that it wasn’t so much that I offered all the answers and solutions (I don’t), as it was that in reading the devotions in the book, he really appreciated the way it helped him realize that what felt so bizarre to him actually was something shared by others going through divorce, that it was kind of “normal,” and that made him feel less alone and a bit reassured……especially since he knows me well enough to know I have made it through. He also says he appreciated that I shared how I wrestled with the issues…..that he may not come to the same solutions, but it helped him as he was sorting things out for himself. Just so you know.
And then, another person told me that she had shared with her pastor one of the blog entries that related specifically to the experience of divorce. When she did, she said he commented that the post was actually pretty helpful to him, that it really did fit well with his experiences pastoring folks who were going through divorce. He also said it helped him have a better sense of what those folks must be going through. Which was echoed by another friend who has also already read the book. She told me she believes every pastor ought to read this book, because, not being divorced herself, she feels like it so helped her understand better what divorcing people are going through, and made her more sensitive to their struggles. Actually, have heard that a couple of times.
But the truth is, it only gives a hint at the experience. I remember at my first church, when as a young pastor I was trying to help people in the midst of divorce, how it was hard for me to understand it very well. I did try. But when I went through my divorce, I realized how little I truly comprehended. It is an indescribable experience. But it is my hope that sharing some of it as best I can, may help someone reading it to be just a little better in their encouragement and ministry to the divorced people around them. That is why I have asked that you pass the link along to others, because somewhere down the line there is somebody who needs the encouragement and hope they can find through these little reflections.
There is one other story….but that is for another blog. My wife says you will really get a kick out of……….maybe tomorrow……
P.S. If you have some extra rain where you live, we’d appreciate you sending some of it our way……
TL:DR Hard times are opportunities for bad habits to take root in our lives. And some stories to share.