In fact we argued about food from several different angles. Looking back now, we were arguing about FOOD! I could never have imagined arguing with anyone about what to eat, how to cook it, who would cook it, how to eat it, when to eat it, or what to do with the leftovers. But believe it or not, we had arguments about all of the above and then some. In fact I titled a chapter in my book "The Kitchen Wars." I can laugh about some of those conversations now, but at the time, it wasn't funny at all.
Realize, that wherever there are differences, there will be conflict. When conflict comes, and trust me it will come, handle it without causing permanent damage to your relationship with your spouse and your stepchildren. When discussing delicate issues, make sure you are not trying to prove you are right and your spouse is wrong. Accept that you are different and established pattern, behaviors and traditions long before you met one another. Learn to accept the things you cannot change and use discernment when deciding what issues to confront. As my husband says, "figure out which hill to die on!" Happy eating.