I did something kind of weird one day which,
of course, surprises no one who knows me.
After moving to my hometown a few years ago, I was at the store one day
and struck up a conversation with a stranger.
Knowing me, it probably started with some stupid joke about a sale or an
advertisement. Then, in the middle of
it, I said to the man something along the lines of:
“This may sound strange, but you don’t know how much I enjoy seeing
you and talking with you, because you are black, at least, that was the term we
used to use, hope it’s okay. But the
point is I have lived in several towns over the years that had much smaller
minority populations, and I have missed the interactions with people of different
races, so I have really enjoyed just chatting with you today. Thanks!”
Another time I was at the store and bumped
into my high school gym coach, and we started to visit, catching up a bit on
one another’s lives. He gave me a hug,
or I gave him one, don’t remember which, and we each went on to finish our
shopping. He also is of African-American
descent.
Charles, Max, Verdale, Anita, Carmen (male),
Debra, Carmen (female), John, Rueben, Mike and his mother Dorothy…those are a
few names of friends of mine from childhood.
Some of them used to come to birthday parties at my house. Some were in scouts with me. Others were friends in band or at
school. Normal names, normal people doing normal
activities. All of these individuals
are, as the phrase goes, “people of color,” although I never really thought
about it at the time. It didn’t
matter…at least, not to me. Each of us
is now grown up and moved on or away in life. I have seen only one or two of them in recent
decades. If I were to attempt a similar
list from this time of life, it would have different names.
I have seen some of the obsessive media
coverage of the difficulties over in Ferguson ,
Missouri , and feel sad. When I was growing up, street protests (riots
they were called back then) were every day occurrences in the news from the
streets of Chicago , Philadelphia ,
San Francisco …only
there were more cars being burned, more national guard troops present and more violence. As I visited with a friend yesterday, we both
recalled the school bus that received broken windows and the time tires were
set on fire in the street here in town.
She even remembered another school bus being turned over.
I was also saddened one day when I was
visiting with a friend of Mexican descent about growing up here in town. We were talking about racism, and I mentioned
my awareness of the racism against African Americans here in town, but wondered
what kind of experiences he knew of among our Mexican population during that
time. (We both knew that there were
plenty of stories of racism from earlier times here.) I was saddened because he was able to tell me
some specific episodes during our lifetimes, one of which occurred at a laundromat
not far from where I had lived. That was
the first time I ever heard of that fact.
It is too bad.
I’m sorry, I just don’t get it. I don’t get why race is such a big deal to
people.
I mean, I DO get that
individuals of certain races experience hard times because of their skin color,
not only here, but other places as well.
Racism IS real.
I DO get that
racism is not merely an American phenomenon nor limited to recent times.
I DO get that there are some cultural
differences among races that affect how we view the world and how we relate to
one another. As an example, I have a hard
time understanding a culture in which life is regarded as cheap, as Ho Chi Minh
expressed in his willingness to lose 100 of his soldiers for every American
soldier. (Perhaps this is related to the Buddhist belief in reincarnation.) It doesn’t make sense to me that some of the Middle Eastern peoples
hold as their highest goal the destruction of the Jewish people and the nation Israel , just
because they are Jewish. I was unaware of the racism that exists between different groups of Asians until recently when I heard some comments in that regard. Or again when I learned about the number of people of every skin color
enslaved or enslaving others in the past all around the globe, including
Assyrians, Egyptians, Romans, Japanese, Germans, Aztec or other American Indian
peoples…the list is sadly long.
I guess I’m one of those individuals who just
wonders why we can’t all just get along.
On the other hand, I have been divorced, and if we could all just get
along, divorce wouldn’t be happening either, would it?
As I watch the events of Ferguson , several thoughts come to mind. First, it is sad that some of the same
struggles still remain that were being fought back in the 60’s and 70’s. It is sad to see one event so highlighted
while others deaths of young blacks are ignored, such as the ones in Chicago for instance. It is sad to hear the whole episode described
in ways that might be exaggerated, or that some may be jumping to inaccurate
conclusions and spring into this kind of action without first gathering the
facts from all sides. (There is a verse
in Proverbs 18:17 that describes this…the ESV reads: The one who
states his case first seems right,
until the other comes and examines him.)
As
facts come out, we may learn there was more behind the episode than we know in
all sorts of ways. And it is sad that
individuals in official positions would even need to be questioned or legally charged to be held accountable (though there seems to be
a LOT of need for that these days here in America —and in a number of other
countries as well, I might add).
Most of all, I
think it is not sad, but reprehensible that opportunists will plunge into
moments like this for their own self-aggrandizement or to infiltrate and stir
up trouble by looting and provoking (all of which diminish the respect and
credibility of the protests). Sad, sad,
sad.
I hope the day will come when there will no
longer be felt a need to protest treatment as all people find a welcome place
in society and are appreciated for who they are, and so choose to live in
respectful and moral ways. I hope one
day some of us will wise up and realize how boring the world would be without
variety. Well, I could go on with dreams
that will probably never fully materialize as long as fallible people are
involved. But maybe we each could find a
way to make some little part of our world just a little bit better in this
regard. And I pray that God will use all these tragic events in Ferguson to make a
difference for good not only there, but among other people who are
watching.
As I watch and shake my head,
I guess I owe a real gratitude to those friends of my childhood, because the
relationships I had with them have laid the foundation for some important
lessons in my life.
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